Hi!Ines! Your blog is always very interesting and gives me courage. Well…I have a question. I have trauma from my father that I had to be good girl, I couldn’t say my opinion. Because my mother passed away when I was 12 years old. When she passed away,I couldn’t cry because everyone cried a lot. I thought I had to help my father, I told myself that don’t cry, you should be a good girl.

But I found out my trauma after giving birth. Normally, it is normally very happy after giving birth, life with my husband. But I feel lonely…
You know that sometimes I get cross with my daughter, and after that I always cry…and feel lonely,and hate myself.

I think that first step is accept myself. To accept myself,what should I do? Also I want to forgive my dad…

Thank you very much for reading.
ojala k tenga buen suerte!!!

un besito,
Yukie



Dear Yukie,

I am so sorry to be late to reply to you, but I am so busy these days.
Please try to just look ahead of you, and my best advise would be to see a conselor, someone who can hep you pull out all your sorrow. You need to talk to somone about your feelings or they will not leave you. Maybe you should wrote on a peice of paper everything you have tried to hide for years and then just burn that paper after reading it once or twice. This is what i did and it helped me feel better and to move on with my life. Also, you should forgive your Father because it is very unhealthy to be angry with somebody. happiness starts with peace in your mind.

Think about your little Princess, your daughter, make her laugh, make her experience feelings of happiness. Always try to compliment her and to encourage her. Never be negative, just think positive and your life will turn from sad grey to bright orange, the color of the sun.

Let me know in a month how you feel. Rent comedy movies and watch them with her, if she is old enough, and laugh as much as you can, it is the best in life.

Much love beautiful and sweet Yukie. Tu tambien ojala que todo te vaya bien y dentro de poco.

Un abrazo, Ines