Ines,

I wonder if you please illuminate us on one of the most difficult communication challenges that we all have to face at one time or another in our lives? That is how to communicate effectively to your boss.

I have been working my best every day for months now..overtime too, and was paid back by a slap in the face by my boss…not literally (thank God!). Not only she took all the credit of my hard work she blamed me for everything that went wrong because of her actions…even threatened to write me up so I’d be fired! She then discussed our disagreements with her colleagues, which I think is a violation of staff’s confidentiality.

I reminded myself to not worry, but how could I not?! My work is where I spend a third of every waking moments and where your boss is horrible, you feel like there’s no escape.

Any thoughts? Thanks for reading.

RJ

Dear RJ,

Oh no!!! Come to work for me!! How I wish RJ…. because now I do not have a need for someone but who knows in the future?

I suggest that you go for it, and confront your boss soon. and tell her that you are fed-up and that she is going too far.

Trust me she will respect you for standing up for yourself.

Do not be emotional or it won’t work. Before you go talk to her make sure you imagine her, being seated on the toilets….! Trust me it helps bringing her down from her untouchable level. Do not act weak in front her. That is bullying to me… and that is a big no-no. Fight back keeping your cool always. Show that you are strong.

And if it does not work, just quit and find another work place where you can be happy and recognized for your value.

Gambate my dear, think of me when you talk and look at her in the eyes, feel my strength at that time if your vanishes,