How to Handle Being In Love With Two People?

October.8,2010
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My friend Brian Chow in Hong Kong, owns this Magazine called PRESTIGE, and I love most of its covers, but this one is HOT-HOT!

I will try to find in my press books, a cool 2-pages story that I did with PRESTIGE a few years ago, and will post it. I shot inside the trendy boutique hotel called JIA in Causeway Bay. Philippe Stark designed the hotel also it is really unique.

Okay, back to the subject above…. How to Handle Being In Love With Two People?

I was asked to keep the identity of the woman who asked me this question totally anonymous…. Also I chose celebrity Kim Kardashian to be YOU….!! As she is gorgeous, I am sure you will not mind!

Dear Kim,

I really understand your situation, because when I was young I also loved 2 persons at the time. Nothing is wrong with you….actually many young women in their 20′s have confessed to me that they were dating 2 guys at the same time and could not decide who to get serious with because both had different attractive qualities.

BUT, even if common, I would say that If you love two people romantically at the same time, you are faced with a big challenge. It is possible you know deep down which person is the most certain for you but equally, it may not be clear. There is a need to be strong in this circumstance. You need to make a choice, who do you love? Who do you like spending time with? Its a hard decision for some but there are a few ways to get through it…

First ask yourself these questions:

  • Which of the two is more my type?
  • Who reciprocates my love the most?
  • Who has the most bounding chemistry with me when we make love?
  • Which person do I usually spend the most time with?

Trust your instincts. Never forget that you’re the one in the know and that you should be able to make your own decisions.

But to be very honest with you “Kim”, I believe that to love somebody is to care about their well-being above your own. To be in love with somebody is to take that responsibility upon yourself, and to always want the best for them.

For this reason, I say that it is impossible to be in love with 2 people at the same time (without removing yourself entirely from the situation on BOTH fronts) because sorry but to me, it’s inherently a selfish feeling that you’re focusing on. Also, try to find who you want to share everything with in your life.

Good luck to you Miss Kim-Loves-Double!

 

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